One of the most frequent objections I hear as a therapist, is the objection by clients who don't see what the point is of re-experiencing unpleasant memories and emotions from the past. "How is feeling sad going to help me?" they ask. Or: "How is getting angry at...
Questions You Should Ask Yourself about Psychiatric Drugs: Psychiatry is in fashion these days. Increasingly people are choosing to "pop a pill" to rid themselves of their depression or their anxiety. Statistics show that every 10th adult in the United States is...
You won’t find “disorders of shame” as a category in the DSM-5 (the official American catalogue over mental health diagnoses), and yet shame is probably the biggest single cause of most of our psychological problems. Shame is often the secret engine that get us...
If you are suffering from depression, anxiety, or some other psychological struggle, there is almost always two directions you can go. Whichever path you choose will have profound implications for the general direction your life will take... The Symptom Path: One...
For consumers contemplating seeing a therapist, there are many types of therapy to choose from. One of the most widely practiced forms of therapy, is psychodynamic therapy. But what does psychodynamic therapy really mean? What is Psychodynamic Therapy? Psychodynamic...
Many people who are considering therapy for their psychological difficulties may wonder how effective talking about their problems is really going to be... So let's examine the question: Does therapy really work? What's Wrong with Talk Therapy? The concern about...
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places" (Ernest Hemingway) Ernest Hemingway spoke of a universal psychological truth, when in A Farewell to Arms, he suggested that you grow stronger in your broken places, much like a wound that...
We live in a society that tells us a story of what depression really is; that wants us to believe that depression is an illness and that it is the result of a broken brain. In a series of articles, which I have called “the causes of depression” I want to tell a...
When we generally think of depression, we think of it as the same phenomenon. People sometimes call it clinical depression, and professionals often call it major depressive disorder. However, depression is not really ONE thing, and there are as many variations of...
In today’s therapeutic landscape, people have to be aware of multiple competing approaches to dealing with life struggles and emotional pain. Sometimes in the public eye, it would appear that an approach named CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the only effective...
Here you can find articles that explore the truth about the human condition as it gets revealed in and through psychotherapy
Why Couples May Not Argue Enough... At first glance it might seem that one of the major reasons...
What is it that makes some couples have more successful and rewarding relationships and others...
Even though it might seem that couples argue about a myriad of different issues, when we look a...
One of single biggest issues that stops people from living the life they want is their inability...
Believe it or not, I wrote my doctoral dissertation on flirting. I wanted to find out based...
Anger is not just a problem to get rid of, but a message to you about who you are and what...
Couples therapist John Gottman has identified 4 behaviors that are so destructive to...
Romantic relationships tend to run a quite predictable course. Initially your partner can do...
Do you sometimes feel you have very little in common with your partner or spouse? Do you often...
