Guilt can be a useful emotion but not when you judge yourself too harshly or unfairly. Learn how to right-size your guilt and act on it so you can let go
Right-Sizing Your Guilt and Learning to Forgive Yourself
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Insight: A Blog for the Critical Consumer of Psychotherapy
By Psychologist Dr. Rune Moelbak
How to Resolve a Conflict When Both Expect an Apology
Couples often end up in a stalemate where they both expect an apology and both blame each other for their woes. How do you resolve a situation like this so you can both move forward?
How to Communicate Better with Your Significant Other
One of the number one issues couples face is difficulty with communication. Why is Communication so Difficult? Much of the time it’s because we just don’t see eye to eye. My feelings and needs become an imposition on your feelings and needs, and vice versa. I may have...
8 Cognitive Behavioral Strategies to Reduce Problematic Drinking
Do You Have a Drinking Problem? Drinking is an ever-present part of our culture and can certainly be done in a way that is responsible and adds value to your life. For some, however, drinking eventually takes over their life and leads to more problems than benefits. A...
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy for Addictions: Everything You Need to Know
In the course of planning a therapy group for veterans with Substance Use Disorders at the Michael E. DeBakey Medical Center in Houston I have gotten to know a lot about an approach to addiction called Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy. The approach was...
Depression as Self-Protection: The Secret Benefit of a Depressed Mind
When we think of depression we often assume it to be a malaise that anyone would want to get rid of. However, depression has a number of “secret” benefits that can make it hard for many people to live without it. Famous Danish philosopher Soeren Kierkegaard captured...
Fundamental Anxiety: The Anxiety of Being Who You Are
Does Your Life Feel Disingenuous? Sometimes in therapy I come across clients who report they don’t really know what they truly want or who they really are. They have been so used to adapting to others or trying to be who they think they should be that they have lost...
The Best Way to Deal with a Panic Attack Is To Do Nothing
The human organism is designed to protect us from danger to ensure our survival. One way it does this is to make us afraid of things that can cause us harm or death. Unfortunately sometimes this built in alarm and detection system is a little too sensitive and can...
The Illness is the Cure: The Forgotten Wisdom of Our Psychological Symptoms
I always liked the saying “The illness is the cure”. Why? Because in the area of mental health, it alerts us to something profoundly insightful about the nature of the psychological and emotional problems most people struggle with. Whether we feel depressed, have...
What is Your Depression Telling You?
In my many years of experience as a psychologist and a psychotherapist, I have seen exceptionally few clients for whom depression was simply a disorder of the brain. In the vast majority of cases, once a person begins to examine their feelings and their life more...
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Right-Sizing Your Guilt and Learning to Forgive Yourself
Guilt can be a useful emotion but not when you judge yourself too harshly or unfairly. Learn how to right-size your guilt and act on it so you can let go
How to Resolve a Conflict When Both Expect an Apology
Couples often end up in a stalemate where they both expect an apology and both blame each other for their woes. How do you resolve a situation like this so you can both move forward?
How to Communicate Better with Your Significant Other
One of the number one issues couples face is difficulty with communication. Why is Communication...
How Psychological Suffering Can Help You Grow Stronger
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places" (Ernest Hemingway)...
Can You Heal a Traumatic Past?
The Past Never Lasts: Changing the Past from the Future “The past never lasts”. Such was the...
How Can I Stop Feeling Guilty All the Time?
Many people feel marred by guilt feelings that are preventing them from fully enjoying their...
Why You Shouldn’t Avoid Your Painful Past…
The title of my blog post this week contains one of the essential insights of my work as a...
The Truth about Pathological Lying
The line between telling the truth and telling a lie has always been the central theme of...
How to Deal with Heartache and Heartbreak
No feeling is so painful as the pain of the human heart... One client of mine, when asked what it...
What You Can Do to Manage Your Anger
Anger is an uncomfortable emotion for most people. We often wonder what to do with it when we feel...
Do You Often Feel Guilty about Your Own Needs?
One frequent problem people present with in therapy is: not knowing how to care for themselves...
Approaches to Couples Counseling: The Gottman Method
Gottman Method Couples Counseling is one of the most popular and contemporary approaches to...
The Best Way to Make Up After a Fight
A sign of a strong relationship is not that you never fight or argue. Disagreements and arguments...
How to Get Your Point Across Without Starting a Fight
A frequent concern couples have is how to express their disagreements without starting a fight....
Extramarital Affairs: Why Do People Cheat?
Infidelity and Cheating is Widespread: Statistics show that between 35-50% of all women or men in...
Things We Can Learn from Happy Couples
It’s all supposed to be very rosy: Two people meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after....
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15 Proven Ways to Fight Depression (A Complete Self-Help Guide)
Are you or someone you know depressed? Not to worry… In this comprehensive, yet simple and practical, self-help guide, I will give you an overview of fifteen of the most effective techniques psychologists use to help their clients overcome depression. Let’s go through each technique one at a time: 1. Get Active: When we become depressed our body often starts Continue Reading
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