by rulamo | Nov 17, 2024 | Blog, Couples Therapy, IFS Therapy, Relationships
Couples often end up in a negative spiral where each feels justified in their ire towards the other. Oftentimes the certainty that they are in the right leads to an expectation of an apology or admission from the other person and an escalation when this expectation...
by rulamo | May 5, 2024 | Blog, Couples Therapy, Relationships
One of the number one issues couples face is difficulty with communication. Why is Communication so Difficult? Much of the time it’s because we just don’t see eye to eye. My feelings and needs become an imposition on your feelings and needs, and vice versa. I may have...
by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy, Depression, Grief/ Loss
No feeling is so painful as the pain of the human heart… One client of mine, when asked what it was like to feel shut out and rejected by her partner, used the word “soul-crunching” to describe her pain In fact heartache and heartbreak are often described by...
by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy
Gottman Method Couples Counseling is one of the most popular and contemporary approaches to couples counseling used by couples therapists today. What makes it so unique in the therapeutic landscape is that it is entirely based on research findings from couples...
by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy
A sign of a strong relationship is not that you never fight or argue. Disagreements and arguments are inevitable when we are emotionally invested in someone. Contrary to popular wisdom, however, fights do not have to tear us apart, but can actually serve as pathways...
by rulamo | Nov 29, 2020 | Couples Therapy
A frequent concern couples have is how to express their disagreements without starting a fight. Learning how to communicate with your partner in a way that minimizes your partner’s defensiveness and makes it possible to have a conversation and not an argument is...
