Category Archives: Couples Therapy

How to Deal with Heartache and Heartbreak

No feeling is so painful as the pain of the human heart... One client of mine, when asked what it was like to feel shut out and rejected by her partner, used the word “soul-crunching” to describe her pain In fact heartache and heartbreak are often described by people through metaphors of brokenness. Heartache and…

Approaches to Couples Counseling: The Gottman Method

Gottman Method Couples Counseling is one of the most popular and contemporary approaches to couples counseling used by couples therapists today. What makes it so unique in the therapeutic landscape is that it is entirely based on research findings from couples researcher John Gottman's own studies of married couples. A Research-Based Approach to Couples Counseling:…

A sign of a strong relationship is not that you never fight or argue. Disagreements and arguments are inevitable when we are emotionally invested in someone. Contrary to popular wisdom, however, fights do not have to tear us apart, but can actually serve as pathways to greater intimacy... Couples who don’t fight can only avoid…

How to Get Your Point Across Without Starting a Fight

A frequent concern couples have is how to express their disagreements without starting a fight. Learning how to communicate with your partner in a way that minimizes your partner's defensiveness and makes it possible to have a conversation and not an argument is vital to the success of any relationship. Having a conversation and having…

Extramarital Affairs: Why Do People Cheat?

Infidelity and Cheating is Widespread: Statistics show that between 35-50% of all women or men in a relationship have had an affair. With such widespread occurrence of infidelity, affairs cannot only be attributed to some act of deviance or amorality, but must be looked at as a normal fact of life. This begs the question…

It’s all supposed to be very rosy: Two people meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after. That’s what the fairy tale states... And yet underneath the hood of every romantic relationship, we find one thing that all relationships have in common: they are all a lot of work... The Perpetual Issues of Couples…

The Surprising Reason Why Arguing Might Help Your Relationship

Why Couples May Not Argue Enough... At first glance it might seem that one of the major reasons couples decide to pursue couples counseling is that they fight too much. Ironically, however, the fights couples engage in are often the result of a determination by both partners not to fight. In fact, many couples do…

The Power of Vulnerability in Your Relationship

What is it that makes some couples have more successful and rewarding relationships and others teeter on the brink of relationship disaster? The Secret of Successful Relationships: If you ask me, the secret to a successful relationship or marriage lies in the capacity to be vulnerable. Most relationship conflicts are the result of people’s distaste…

Number 1 Reason Couples Fight (and What to Do About It)

Even though it might seem that couples argue about a myriad of different issues, when we look a little deeper, we often find that most arguments have one thing in common: They are really about how we feel about each other, and more specifically, how loved or how significant we feel to our partner. A…

The Art of Flirting: Key Lessons from My Dissertation on Flirting

Believe it or not, I wrote my doctoral dissertation on flirting. I wanted to find out based on first hand accounts, what mindset you get into when you flirt. I wanted to live the experience vicariously through what other people told me about a time when they flirted. I wanted to see if there…

Category Archives: Couples Therapy

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